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    Know when a person’s basic feeling of trust is determined



    The first relationship that ever a child has in this universe is his or her mother. The manner in which the caretaker responds to the infant’s needs-patiently with warmth and concern, or brusquely with little sensitivity to discomfort-will influence the child’s attitudes towards other people. Some Psychologists believe that a person’s basic feelings of trust in other are determined by experiences during the first year of life.

    By two months of age the average child, will smile at the sight of the mother’s face. Indeed, the infant’s ability to smile at such an early childhood may play an important role in strengthening the mother child bond. The infant’s tending to seek closeness to particular people and to feel more secure in their presence is called attachment. While a close relationship with a warm and responsive adult is essential for a child’s emotional development, interaction with other children plays an important role, too. Human children also learn many of their social skills in interaction with each other. They learn to give and take, to share in co-operative venture, to enjoy each other’s actions, and to understand how another person feels. Peers become models to imitate as well as important dispensers of rewards and punishment. By watching the action of peers, children may learn new skills (how to build a bridge with blocks) or the consequences of certain behavior (aggression get other children to trouble). Although parents are the primary identification figures, sibling pay an important role too. The sex of the other siblings influences the child’s interest and behavior, girls with older brothers are likely to be more masculine (Tomboyish) and competitive than girls with old sisters. Similarly, boys with older sisters tend to be less aggressive than boys with older brothers. Birth order also affects the child’s relationship in the family. Studies conducted show that the responsible child would be often the third. The more conscientious and co-operative nature of the first-borns probably reflects an attempt to maintain their ‘privileged’ status with the parents in the face of possible displacement by the newly arrived sibling. The after-born may feel less competent than the older sibling and may try to excel in other ways- for examples by being more physically daring.

    Beginning Relationship: Relationship may be in the form of a mother, sibling, friends, life partners or a companion, rival, relatives etc. Any how these relations should be formed out of any of the following factors.

    • Co- operation
    • Competition
    • Conflict
    • Accomodation
    • Assimilation

    These are the essential forces that make relationship a positive or a negative one in other intergroup Co-operations. Most of the relationships are made out of co-operation. Except a few like child-mother which is in in-separable all other bonds are purely on the basis of give and take. We find to choose our friends, our mates etc., by co-operating with them.

    Competition: In any relationship there is a competition that always exists. It may be direct or indirect. For example, a relationship between our colleague may be co- operative but at the same time there exists a competition between him and us.

    Conflict: whenever there is a relationship there is a conflict. Conflict may result due to differences of opinions between two friends or a husband or a wife. There are several reasons for the outbreak of conflict but it may end up in breaking the relationship.

    Accomodation: When people finish up the conflict they tend to accommodate each other mutually.

    Assimilation: Assimilation is the process when by persons acquires the culture of other groups in which they come to live, by adapting its attitudes and values.

    A relationship, therefore may be formed or began out of co-operation, conflict, competition, accommodation.

    Hi, I’m Aarti, My Psychoanalytical approach towards my clients is to empower them to better their lives through improving their relationship with themselves. I believe shame and guilt is a common barrier to change. I aim to guide my clients through re authoring their narratives where shame, guilt, and other problems have less power and take up less space.

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