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Does gender difference concern women’s career or work path? Is today’s workplace essentially the same for women as it is for men?



Important gender differences remain when it came to career choice and development. For one thing, most women still subordinate their career goals to their husbands. This is even the case with academically gifted women. If a married man wants or needs to move to another job, his wife typically follows him and takes the best job she can find in the new location. Hence, married women usually have less control over their career than married men do. The high divorce rate means that many women will have to provide for themselves and their children. One study reported that after a divorce, the woman’s standard of living drops 27 percent. Today’s women need to take these factors into account as they consider their career Options.

Another gender difference concerns career paths. Men’s Career paths are usually continuous, whereas women’s tend to be discontinuous. In other words, once men start working full time, they usually continue to work. Women are more likely to interrupt their careers to concentrate on childrearing or family crises. Still, because women are having fewer children and are returning to work sooner, the amount of time they are out of the work is decreasing. Research says that work discontinuity is a factor in women’s lower salaries and status, while others fail to find a “family penalty” women who do not have a children usually remain in the work and tend to have a pattern of career advancement.

Work is an activity that produces something of value for others. Recent years have seen a dramatic upsurge in the number of females in the workplace. Is today’s workplace essentially the same for women as it is for men? In many respects, the answer appears to be NO. Although job discrimination on the basis of gender has been illegal for more than 30 yrs, women continue to face obstacles to occupational success, as evidenced by recent court decisions that found few of the MNC guilty of sex discrimination. Foremost among these obstacles is job segregation. Jobs are simultaneously typed by gender. Most women tend to be concentrated in female dominated jobs where there is little opportunity for advancement or increase in salary. Workers in female dominated fields typically earn less than employees in male dominated fields, even when the jobs require similar levels of training, skill, and responsibility.

Still, more women are entering higher status occupations, even it at a low rate. Unfortunately, they still face discrimination because they are frequently passed over for promotion in favor of men. This seems to be a problem especially at higher levels of management.

When there is only one woman in an office, she becomes a token or a symbol of all women community; Tokens are more distinctive than men. Distinctiveness makes a person’s actions subject to intense scrutiny, stereotyping, and judgments. Thus if a man makes a mistake, it is explained as an individual problem. When a token woman makes a mistake, it is seen as evidence that members of female community are incompetent. Hence, women experience a great deal of performance pressure, an added source of job stress. Interestingly, if women are perceived as being “too successful” they may be labelled “workaholics” or may be accused of trying to “show up” members of that community. These unfavorable perceptions may be reflected in performance appraisals. The performance of successful men is less likely to be interpreted in these negative ways. Another way the world of work is different for women is that they have less access to same gender or same group role models and mentors. Finally, sexual harassment is much more likely to be a problem for working women than for working men. Women face discrimination on the job in a number of forms. Negative feelings about affirmative action prompt some to automatically assume that all women co workers have been hired only because of their gender. Obviously, these assumptions can be quite harmful to an employee’s success. For instance, several studies have demonstrated that attaching an affirmative action label to an employee results in negative attribution and perceptions of incompetence. The good news is that this potential negative effect can be eliminated when people know that decisions are based on merit as well as on group membership.

Women before you enter the working world, it’s important to get your bearings women either should make her work a way to earn a living OR a way of life. And make yourself aware of six important trends:

  • Technology is changing the nature of work. Digital workplace demands more education and skills than were previously required, so keep upgrading yourself in terms of technology skills.
  • New work attitudes are required. In the new work environment the key to job success are self direction, self management, up to date knowledge and skills, flexibility, and mobility.
  • Lifelong learning is a necessity. Workers who know “how to learn” will be able to keep pace with the rapidly changing work place and will be highly valued. Those who cannot will be left behind.
  • Independent workers are increasing. Just thrive on contract work which have freedom, flexibility and high income. But for this you need to have skills and entrepreneurial spirit. Lack of this may cause risk and stressful work experience and that’s why many employees prefer to work for someone else than to work for themselves.
  • The highest job growth will occur in the professional and service occupations. Yesterday’s jobs were in manufacturing, construction, agriculture and mining. Now among the professional occupations, jobs in the computer and health care industries, in education (at all levels), social services, and business services.

Women must move and look beyond gender differences in their career or work.


    Hi, I’m Aarti, My Psychoanalytical approach towards my clients is to empower them to better their lives through improving their relationship with themselves. I believe shame and guilt is a common barrier to change. I aim to guide my clients through re authoring their narratives where shame, guilt, and other problems have less power and take up less space.

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    Tenderness Helpful in the Treatment of Mental Depression




    Tenderness Helpful in the Treatment of Mental Depression, a few years ago, I visited a hospital of national repute for the treatment of a friend, who happens to be a doctor himself. After the primary necessary investigations, the OPD doctor advised him to be admitted.


    We were sitting on a bench in front of the concerned ward and suddenly we saw one of the patients run out of his ward, followed by his wife. As soon as he saw me, he started shouting – ”Told you for work, had to go to the bank, had to bring goods from the market, ration was also over, school fees had to be deposited, office papers”.


    His wife, standing behind him, started apologizing to me again and again for his behavior’s . I put my hand on this unfamiliar gentleman’s shoulder and assured him that all the work had been taken care of and he didn’t have to worry about anything. My words worked their magic and the person who was creating a ruckus sometime back, calmly went back to the ward. 

    There is a lot of power in tenderness

    There is a lot of power in tenderness, which creates a positive aura in the mind of even a mentally unwell person. The film ‘Munna Bhai MBBS’ has also tried to convey the same message through the concept of ‘Jadoo Ki Jhappi’.

    In today’s society, in the atmosphere of increasing depression and mental pressure, there is an essential need to listen patiently to one’s troubles, happiness and sorrow, to create an atmosphere of affection. In today’s world, especially in the era of Corona and post Covid , people have been surrounded by many kinds of problems personally or professionally and eventually become victims of depression.  

    As time demands ,the discussion of mental and psychological wellness started gaining momentum and now the whole world seems to be talking about it.  The need for Tenderness in more mental hospitals in the country has also been discussed.

    In my opinion, it’s time to encourage the growth of mental wellness experts/volunteers in India, both for urban and rural areas and train them in a way to counsel people suffering from depression or mental illness with passion , affection and dedication.

    Today the biggest problem

    Today the biggest problem is that there is no one who wants or has the time to listen and unless people are able to express their stories or problems openly, it is tough to get out of depression. There can be many reasons for dejection, but it is important that the suffocation trapped in the mind of the concerned person should come out first. We all have to take the initiative. Our small efforts can save someone from big troubles.

    Yoga, exercising, spiritual practices, dance and music could be instruments to create a positive environment. “Ayurvedic dietary modifications and Yogic Methods are known to be helpful in mitigating depression. Appropriate counselling methods to enhance the resilience of a patient suffering from depression is also known to help”, added Dr. Kishore Kumar, Professor of Ayurveda and Head, Dept. of Integrative Medicine, NIMHANS, Bengaluru.

    Snigdha Mishra , a New Delhi based psychotherapist and mental health educator confirms that  “professionals like journalists working under undue mental pressure  should also act the same as anyone else to stay mentally fit.  Exercise ,sleep well ,therapy of course to learn in-depth techniques suitable for oneself. Because what works for one may not work for others. Hence a therapist might help you create a good plan for yourself and also ways to stick to it.” 


    Government, non-government organizations, industrial and corporate houses alike, should come forward to extend their support  in forming  a psychological army for a healthy society.  We, at ShareYrHeart, as envoys of mental and psychological wellness are always prepared to accept such challenges .

    About Bijay Singh :

    A  Journalist with a rich, cumulative experience of more than 30 years, having traversed different formats of print, electronic and new media.

     During the discharge of responsibilities  in many reputed newspapers, magazines and media institutions , got an opportunity to understand the professional  in-outs and the an urge to learn always inspired to do something new.

    Additionally, a  National Executive Council member of the Indian Journalists  Union, Global Communication Lead of the Center for International Media Ethics. and founder of Indian Journalists Welfare Foundation.

    With a deep-rooted passion for philanthropy, I always strive to learn new things and add on to my repertoire of skills.

    when it came to naming this platform, we endorsed “ShareYrHeart ” (Share Your Heart) based on the concept of ‘Dil Ki Baat Dil Se Sajha Karo’.  Positive communication and tenderness  always makes a difference.

    It is said that having a Healthy Heart is very important for a Healthy Life.  By imbibing this notion, we are presenting “ShareYrHeart ”   to you. We care about your mental and psychological well-being.

     This is your platform, please feel free to share your thoughts with us.

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    Parenting Can Facilitate a Child’s Journey to Mental Health Recovery



    Summary: Parenting plays a profound role in shaping a child’s overall well-being, including their mental health. When a child faces the challenges of mental illness, it is vital for parents to provide the right support, understanding, and guidance to aid their recovery. 


    Building a Strong Foundation of Understanding and Empathy

    Understanding and empathy form the bedrock of proper parenting when a child is dealing with mental illness. It is crucial for parents to educate themselves about their child’s condition, its symptoms, and how it impacts their emotions and behavior. This knowledge allows parents to approach the child’s struggles with compassion and provide appropriate support.

    Fostering Open Communication and Active listening

    Encouraging open communication is essential to establishing a safe space for the child to express their feelings and concerns. Parents should actively listen without judgment, allowing the child to share their experiences and emotions. This two-way communication not only strengthens the parent-child bond but also enables early detection of potential challenges, ensuring timely intervention.

    Providing Access to Professional Mental Health Care

    Proper parenting involves seeking professional mental health care for the child. Collaborating with therapists, counselors, or psychiatrists creates an integrated support system for the child’s recovery. Regular therapy sessions can help the child develop coping mechanisms and address underlying issues contributing to their mental health struggles.

    Creating a Nurturing and Stable Environment

    A nurturing and stable home environment is vital for a child’s mental health recovery. Setting clear boundaries, maintaining consistent routines, and offering unconditional love create a sense of safety and security for the child. This stable foundation enables the child to focus on healing and growth.

    Positive Reinforcement and Celebrating Progress

    Recognizing and celebrating the child’s efforts and milestones, no matter how small, is essential for building their self-esteem and motivation. Positive reinforcement reinforces the idea that progress is valued, encouraging the child to continue their journey towards recovery with determination and confidence.

    Educating Family and Community to Reduce stigma

    Proper parenting extends beyond the confines of the home. Parents can play a pivotal role in reducing the stigma surrounding mental illness within the family and community. By educating others about the child’s condition and fostering understanding and acceptance, parents create an inclusive support network for the child.

    Teaching Healthy Coping Strategies

    Parents can actively teach their children healthy coping strategies to manage stress and emotions. Techniques such as mindfulness, deep breathing, and engaging in creative activities can empower the child to navigate challenges and cope with triggers effectively.

    Promoting Physical Well-Being

    Physical and mental health are intertwined, and proper parenting involves encouraging a balanced lifestyle. Parents should prioritize a nutritious diet, regular exercise, and sufficient sleep for their child. A healthy body contributes to a healthier mind, enhancing the child’s overall well-being.

    Advocating for the Child’s Needs

    Parents act as advocates for their children in various settings, such as schools or social circles. Ensuring the child receives appropriate accommodations and support in these environments fosters an environment conducive to recovery and growth.

    Patience and Flexibility

    Recovery from mental illness may be a gradual process, and parents must exercise patience and flexibility. Each child’s journey is unique, and parents should respect their pace, offering unwavering support through the ups and downs.


    Proper parenting can be a powerful force in helping a child recover from mental illness. By providing understanding, empathy, and the right support, parents create a nurturing environment that facilitates healing and growth. Active listening, open communication, and access to professional care further strengthen the child’s chances of recovery. Together, with love, patience, and a commitment to reducing stigma, parents can empower their children to overcome mental health challenges and embrace a brighter, healthier future.

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    Know how consciousness monitors and controls our actions



    Generally, we are aware of what is going on around us but it is not that we are aware of everything that is happening. When we listen to a lecture in a class, in between our thought moves to some other things. This only shows that our consciousness moves away. The states of consciousness are subjective and very personal.

    Though discussion of conscious experience occurs in every topic of psychology, defining it and explaining it has been difficult. Many people refer to consciousness as a person’s current awareness of external and internal stimuli. This is one aspect of consciousness. We are conscious not only when we monitor our environment but also when we try to control ourselves and our environment.

    Hence consciousness involves:

    • Monitoring ourselves and our environment so that perceptions, memories and thoughts are represented in awareness.
    • Controlling ourselves and our environment so that we are able to initiate and terminate behavioral and cognitive activities.

    Monitoring ourselves is one important aspect of it. Processing information from the environment is the main function of the body’s sensory system. It aids in becoming aware of what is happening in our surroundings as well as within us. But it focuses only on some stimuli and ignores others. This helps in dealing with information overload. Our attention is selective; events that are important for our survival are given top priority.

    Another important function of it is controlling. It helps in planning, initiating and guiding our actions. Of course all our behaviors are not controlled by consciousness. In fact, many behaviors occur outside of it.

    It refers to a person’s awareness of the sensations, thoughts and feelings being experienced at a given moment. An altered state of consciousness is a change from an ordinary pattern of mental functioning to a state that seems different to the person experiencing the change. Altered states of consciousness can vary from the distraction of a vivid daydream to the confusion and perceptual distortion caused by drug intoxication.

    Preconscious memories: Though our awareness at any given moment is only limited, stimuli that are not our focus of attention can have some influence in our consciousness. For instance, when you are having lunch in a restaurant, ignoring the conversation of others when your name is mentioned by someone that catches your attention.

    Many of our memories and thoughts which are not part of our consciousness can be brought into awareness. For instance, you may not be conscious of your friend’s marriage that took place last month. But the memories can be brought into your awareness if you wish. Memories that are accessible to consciousness are preconscious memories.

    The unconscious: The earliest theory of consciousness is the psychoanalytic theory by Sigmund Freud. He believed that a major portion of the mind was unconscious. It contains memories impulses and desires that are not accessible to consciousness. Freud believed that unpleasant memories and unfulfilled wishes are diverted to the unconscious. Though these are not accessible to consciousness, they exert a strong influence on one’s behavior. Many psychologists and researchers disagree that unconscious contains only unpleasant memories. Instead they state that there are memories and mental processes that are outside of consciousness. In other words, all agree that there exists and unconscious aspect.

    Automaticity and Dissociation: while controlling is an important function of consciousness, some activities with frequent practice become automatic or habitual. For instance, when we learn to drive it requires our complete attention. Once we master the activity, we are able to drive at the same time carry on a casual conversation. The habituation of responses that initially required conscious attention is called automaticity. In such activities the control is there but it is dissociated from consciousness. Proposed by the French psychiatrist Pierre Janet, dissociation is a state that under certain conditions some thoughts and actions become split off, or dissociated from the rest of consciousness and function outside awareness.

    Consciousness is a person’s perceptions, thoughts and feelings at a given moment. It monitors and controls our actions.

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